{"id":4088,"date":"2024-01-17T14:55:09","date_gmt":"2024-01-17T14:55:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/afrikagora.com\/philadelphia\/forgotten-what-courtship-is-long-for-real-commitment-get-yourself-an-african-man-aj-johnson\/"},"modified":"2024-01-20T04:51:45","modified_gmt":"2024-01-20T04:51:45","slug":"forgotten-what-courtship-is-long-for-real-commitment-get-yourself-an-african-man-aj-johnson","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/afrikagora.com\/philadelphia\/forgotten-what-courtship-is-long-for-real-commitment-get-yourself-an-african-man-aj-johnson\/","title":{"rendered":"Forgotten what Courtship is? Long for Real Commitment? Get yourself an African Man – AJ Johnson"},"content":{"rendered":"

This piece might rattle some Americans, but to be fair, the thoughts expressed herein are from an American about fellow Americans. Just think of it as Americans looking at themselves in the mirror, and take it with the light note it deserves.<\/span><\/p>\n

Now that we got that \u2018heads up\u2019 out of the way let us talk about the comments AJ Johnson said while on the talk show, <\/span>Out Loud With Claudia Jordan<\/span><\/i> on Fox Soul. Johnson, the former actor, turned life coach shared her story from her earlier days in acting, turning to life coach as a career, and her muscular frame that she says some find too masculine.<\/span><\/p>\n

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However, what turned heads and spark emotive conversations, was the experience Johnson had while working in the African country of Ghana. Cupid\u2019s arrow hit the bull\u2019s eye on Johnson\u2019s heart while in Africa, she met a Ghanaian man, who made her re-evaluate American lovers.<\/span><\/p>\n

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On the show, Johnson spoke about how she met this dark chocolate, tall, and young man in Ghana. Well, that type of man is not unique only to Ghana, there are plenty of those to go around in America, and possibly the world over.<\/span><\/p>\n

What stood out about this man for AJ Johnson is how strikingly different he approached the whole issue of dating. It was nothing like what she was used to with men back in the U.S.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201c<\/span>This is what I\u2019ll say. I\u2019ve learned that American men \u2018kick it.\u2019 African men court. African men commit. That difference alone for me took me from \u2018kicking it with somebody to feeling chosen,\u201d <\/span><\/i>\u00a0said Johnson.<\/span><\/p>\n

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One thing that struck in Johnson while on that show, is how much she praised her Ghanaian man for his courtship. The man was courting her; making the pursuit, going out of his way to make her feel wanted, showing her his commitment to the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201c<\/span>To me, as Americans, as African-American women, what I\u2019m used to is, you grow in the relationship and then say you\u2019re together. Well, the commitment came first, and now we\u2019re moving into a year of working through it and talking. I\u2019ve never felt so chosen. That\u2019s the word! Because I\u2019m the one that\u2019s going.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

For Jordan, the feeling of being chosen (picked out of the crowd) is something she has never felt while in a relationship with an American man. She expressed how tough finding love in Los Angeles can be, using the word \u2018difficult.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n

She says the same thing can be found wherever she goes across America, be it L.A., the South, or Midwest. According to her, dating in the United States is shallow.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201c<\/span>I found that in the country, I don\u2019t care where I went, Chicago, Atlanta, I was more recognized for my career than my soul. I was more approached based on recognition and celebrity more than what my God life was like that day.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

So it was really, really nice to meet someone, and the first ten minutes he said, \u2018I did my research, and I would love to explore who you are more. I\u2019d like to commit to you.\u2019 I was like; I\u2019m from New Jersey, what does that mean?\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

The Ghanaian man looks after not only her love and relationship needs but also her spiritual fulfillment.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201c<\/span>I\u2019ll tell you what\u2019s also different. To me, the expression of love is different. I am used to the snuggly, physical, intimate love, and that\u2019s growing, but what I really feel loved by is that he pays attention to my passions and what I want to do.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

He loves the fact that I\u2019m deep into philanthropy and my spirit\u2019s very giving, so he\u2019s helped me build a lot of philanthropic platforms in Ghana.\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

You can watch the recording of the show by clicking on the video below. [Starts at 8:30]<\/span><\/p>\n

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